May 07 2008

It’s Potty Time…

We’ve been sidling toward toilet training with Cole, somewhat as one would if one was trying to collar a potentially rabid dog. We are nervous about making too big a deal about it and calling attention to our efforts but, at the same time, it needs to happen. I’m looking forward to the days of no more diapers, though I realize the days of expecting no accidents and competent and thorough ass wiping are still years hence.

To this end, we’ve been pushing our luck and letting him be in “big-boy” underpants for a time before bed. So far, we’ve had a couple of pee accidents and one poo- no more than we really expected. The last couple of times he’s stayed dry the whole time, which I don’t know if I should attribute to his greater awareness or dehydration (he’s not REALLY dehydrated, just sometimes doesn’t drink that much in the evening).

On the suggestion of our daycare provider, we have not purchased a potty, and instead invite Cole to sit on the normal toilet (her reasoning is that they won’t get a potty anywhere but at home, so they should get used to a normal toilet as soon as possible, which is logical, I suppose). The problem with this is that Cole is totally uncomfortable on the toilet, and has yet to actually pee or poop while there. Ever. This leaves me wandering around after him in the house, watching for signs that he may have to go and regularly feeling the front of his undies to check for pee. Such fun! Or… not.

So tell me- in your experience, do kids figure it out eventually (like, before kindergarten?) or should we break down and buy a damn potty already? Any tips?


  • By Jami, May 9, 2008 @ 7:34 am

    We helped them along but didn’t really push them and both our kids did eventually get it on their own – before kindergarten because being potty-trained was a requirement for attending. I wouldn’t buy a kid toilet but I would buy an adapter seat that fits on the regular toilet. Kids have a drop-in problem when sitting on the grownup seat, and it’s hard to concentrate on doing your business when you have to worry about holding your ass up to prevent it from getting flushed. One thing we did on evenings and weekends at home when it was just family around was simply remove their clothing below the waist, especially the diaper/pull-up. That way there were immediate consequences for not making it to the potty, and we knew immediately when accidents had happened. And NEVER make a big deal about accidents! Just keep on trying.

  • By ticknart, May 13, 2008 @ 12:55 pm

    This is way off topic, but are you guys going to Strawberry Memorial Day weekend?

  • By heels, May 13, 2008 @ 1:02 pm

    No. Can’t afford it. SAD!

    Why, are you coming up?

  • By The Princess, May 14, 2008 @ 8:04 am

    WE potty trained Camille a few before her 2nd bday…we did push her along, call me a bad Mama if you will, but I really didn’t want to potty train a 2 year old while taking care of an infant.

    I disagree w/ your daycare, buy a potty seat for Cole. Imagine trying to learn to go on a toilet with your legs dangling high in the air, seems a bit uncomfortable. Being able to have their feet firmly planted on something makes them feel a bit more secure. Also, it gives them the freedom to go when they need to. Now, Camille will just go into the bathroom and go by herself. If she was on the big toilet, I’d have to put her on each time. Yes, there was a spell of about a month where she didn’t want to go in public, but I don’t think that had anything to do with the larger toilet as she would go on the regular toilet at home w/ a little seat on it. I think it was going in a different location that scared her. But just 4 short weeks after we started training her, she was comfortable going anywhere.

    After Cole is comfortable going on his little potty, start the transition, it will be easier for him.
    Good luck!!

  • By ticknart, May 14, 2008 @ 8:43 am

    Only if I don’t get scheduled for an interview in early June. So, right now, yeah. If I get an interview, though, probably not.

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