Jun 29 2006

Huge Ethical Dilemmas here.

First of all- today is John’s Birthday! Go tell him to have a great one.

This morning, after yet ANOTHER blowout (this time in the exersaucer- lovely! You know, the drain holes in the base of the exersaucer seem like a good idea until there’s a pint of liquid poop poured inside) and the subsequent scrubbing of hands, John and I went to get scones from our favorite place. Because of his birthday, not because I’ve been craving them daily. Nothing like that.

I walked in and was able to order immediately. I didn’t dither, I didn’t ask for extras, I had correct change, and I was pleasant.

I think I got a little glare for not tipping.

I’m a big tipper- when I think it’s deserved. If I ask for extra work, i.e., warming my scone, making an espresso drink, double wrapping, or bussing my dirty plates and garbage, then I tip. I tip more the more effort it takes. I am overgenerous most of the time.

But reaching in a case, putting a scone in a bag, and taking my money? That’s just your JOB. That’s what you get paid your basic salary for. I’ve worked a LOT harder in sales without any kind of tip or extra compensation. A tip is not DESERVED, it is EARNED.

Am I wrong? I admit, I have never worked in food service- for a reason! I imagine it really sucks. But where do we draw the tipping line? Do I tip you just because you smiled at me and said “Have a good day”? I think not.

So, do you agree? What are your tipping guidelines? I’d like to hear especially if you’ve been in food service. When do you tip?


  • By ticknart, June 29, 2006 @ 1:15 pm

    In my food service experience, tips were a life saver. It’s extra cash that, hopefully, meant I didn’t have to take anything out from my account. It’s what paid for gas in my car and the little extra things that helped to balance the misery that was ‘Bucks. So, I always try to leave a little something. Usually, I don’t bring exact change just so I can toss the few cents I get back into the jar. Every little bit helps, right?

  • By Rude Cactus, July 1, 2006 @ 5:21 pm

    I see where you’re coming from. I stop for donuts and coffee most mornings and I have the same ethical question. I tip half the time ;-) Otherwise, I’m a big tipper. My wife – who’s also generous – laughs and shakes her head when she sees the percentages I fork over.

  • By adrienne, July 4, 2006 @ 10:51 am

    as an ex-waitress i totally agree with you. i am a huge tipper when it’s deserved. i used to work in a busy restaurant and i know what it takes to do a good job and earn the tip – that’s why if things that go wrong are out of your control i understand and still tip. and i don’t feel bad about not tipping if the person sucks at their job because when i screwed up on a table i never expected much of a tip.

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